Marriage and the Gospel

I know three couples that are all going through a bit of Marital growing pains and as I talk with all of them I have put them into three bubbles.  They all have a bout the same problem and there is only one big difference in the handling of there pains and there success.

Couple 1 has been married for 5 years and have 2 children.  They both work middim jobs and they seem happy on the outside.  They are members of the Church but they are nonactive.  They were married in the Temple but now have expired Recommends.  They have a couple problems,  One is respect and the other is trust. 

Couple 2 has been married for 2 years and they are trying for children, but have not yet succeeded.  They both have good jobs and they one has a side hobby that brings in some extra money.  They look to be a strong successful happy couple.  They are Active members of the Church and attend the Temple regularly.  They were married in the Temple and are avid service people in there ward.   They also have a couple of problem, One Respect and the other Communication.

Couple three has been married for 4 years, no children and no real plans for kids anytime soon.  The one has a high power job and the other has a good job and going to school to get a better job.  They are not members of the LDS Church but go to a small Congregational Church every so often.  They are over all good people.  They have a couple problems, Respect and stubbornness.

All of these couple have at least one problem that is the same.  Respect or lake there of.  

Couple 1 they don’t appreciate each other and there for don’t really show one another the respect they deserve.  Their second problem is a lake of trust, because they do not  respect each other enough to all ways be honest they now do not trust one another.  

Couple 2 They so their lake of respect by not communicating enough or over communicating.  This is their way of disrespect.

Couple 3 because they let their Egos get in the way they are like two bulls standing horn to horn and this is their way of not respecting the other.

The biggest difference is their level in the Gospel of Jesus Christ.  As I have talked to all 3 couples personally I know which couple is doing what I feel is the best to Grow together and learn to Respect one another.  Couple 2 is on the right path.  They saw that they had a problem and the thought themselves into the Gospel.  They do a lot to have a Christ centered home.  They try to read and pray together and to attend the Temple together.  They are moving forward nicely and no longer bring up the word devoice.  Couple 1 isn’t to far behind but in the world of marriage if you mention Devoice it’s not on a good path.  They have not started going back to church yet but they are trying to work things out and I hear they are going to talk with their Bishop which is a good First start.  Couple 3 didn’t really have all of the advantages the other two do because they are not in the Gospel yet.  They are trying but they are not on the path toward God so they are having to learn the hard was.

What I have learned from these three couples and can apply to my marriage is that if we plant or feet in the Gospel of the True Church we will have a better chance to succeed.  A better chance to be happy and a better chance to truly enjoy our Marriages forever.  May we all look toward God to be our consoler.

I hope this makes cents and came out as I intended it to .  My hands don’t type as fast as my mind thinks.